Stop Comparing Yourself: You’re Not Behind — You’re Becoming
As the saying goes, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
It steals your joy.
It clouds your clarity.
And worst of all, it keeps you stuck — frozen in place, doubting yourself before you’ve even begun.
Let’s take a breath here:
You are not behind.
You are not lost.
You are simply on your path.
The Loop of False Starts
For years, I lived in the loop.
A spark would light up — a dream, a vision, a sense that maybe this was the thing.
I'd pour myself into it. Energized. Inspired. Obsessed.
And then… it would get hard.
The fog would creep in. The doubts would come knocking:
“What if this isn’t good enough?”
“What if I’m just not cut out for this?”
And I’d stop. Again.
The cycle repeated. New beginnings followed by abrupt ends. Over and over.
Each time, I told myself the same story:
“Maybe I’m just not meant to do this.”
The Comparison Trap
I’d see others thriving.
Creating. Building. Succeeding.
And I’d think: Why can’t I figure it out like them?
But the truth is, I wasn’t failing because I lacked talent or discipline.
I was stuck because I was measuring my path by someone else’s map.
The Turning Point: Reclaiming a Proverb
Everything shifted the day I read the full version of a quote I’d grown up hearing:
“Jack of all trades, master of none…”
I always thought it meant I was doing life wrong. That trying too many things meant I lacked focus.
But then I discovered the rest:
“…but oftentimes better than a master of one.”
Wait — what?
It wasn’t a warning. It was a celebration.
Of the explorers. The curious. The adaptable.
Of people like me — and maybe like you — who don’t just stick to one thing, but who try, learn, evolve.
The Power of Trying
I’ve tried a lot of things:
Sold cookies to local cafés.
Shot wedding videos and family portraits.
Designed invitations and events for family and friends
Even dipped into Amazon FBA and Whatnot.
None of them became “the thing”, not yet anyway.
But every single one taught me something.
Each effort — each “failed” experiment — became a brick in the foundation of a life uniquely mine.
Those weren’t wastes of time. They were blueprints.
Not for someone else’s path, but for mine.
Small Wins, Big Shifts
What if the goal isn’t mastery?
What if it’s momentum?
A single journal entry.
A project launched quietly.
A checklist completed.
A blog post — like this one — published without fanfare.
These are the small wins. And they shift everything.
Because they prove you’re not stuck.
You’re moving. You’re growing. You’re becoming.
This Is Your Reminder
So if you’re in the middle of it — in the fog, the loop, the doubt — let this be your reminder:
Give yourself grace.
You’re not failing.
You’re creating something new.
The fact that you’re still showing up — even when it’s messy, even when no one’s watching — that matters.
You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
So keep going.
Don’t stop now.
You’re building something beautiful — one imperfect step at a time.